In our quest to live a happy, meaningful and fulfilling life, we need to look at dynamics of human mind. How it leads into the field of greater possibilities and what are the pitfalls we need to avoid, so that our mind does not turn into our greatest enemy. One of the worst thing we can do to ourselves is suppression. We suppress ourselves in various ways, sometimes we are not aware, other times we think that it is the way of life. When we are not in touch with ourselves, we deny our needs.
Suppression happens in any way, sometimes obvious, sometimes it is subtle.
- To fit in the culture, we stop listening to our inner voice.
- Sometimes we just follow trends, set up by society without questioning any goodness in it.
- We compromise with situations and accept instead of going for what we want.
- Accepting authority, without questioning status quo.
- Sometimes to project the self- image of being good, we compromise on being authentic.
All these situations leads to powerlessness. We compromise, when we feel lack, when we feel not enough.
Worst is when you are in a dissatisfied relationship. The relationship of compromise where there is no love and care but is based on mutual benefit or single sided benefit. When relationship is single sided where other partner is taking your advantage, it is difficult to recognise because you do not have clear picture and go on suppressing yourself until you have tolerated for a longer period and now situation is that there is anger in you which you cannot express due to powerlessness. This anger keeps on building in you because you are holding onto it and there is no outlet to express it. One day you are going to explode. It is important to address any dis-satisfaction by communicating your situation and taking needful action.
Another is dis-satisfaction in your job. You are just carrying on for the money sake, cannot leave it because it pays your bills, give you security and you are used to it. There may be many unique talents in you, but you are not pursuing them because you feel unsure. It takes courage to walk the path you wish to take, listening to your intuition and making forward path by taking small steps in that direction. Going for what you want and doing what you love, it will bring in much needed energy and enthusiasm.
How to avoid suppression, which happen in many ways:
- Being mindful of your life situation, your emotions and thoughts.
- Being aware of your needs and making sure that your needs are fulfilled. You are treated with respect, honour, love and care.
- The moment somebody crosses your personal boundaries, you need to take action, communicate with them. If communication does not bring result take more powerful action, so that message gets clear that it is unacceptable.
- Sometime, situations are so demanding that it presses to do what you do not want to do, so, ask yourself- What you really want and go by it. Never, compromise, Universe will adjust according to your will and willpower.
- Challenge status quo, but with right attitude and right frame of mind. It is to improve the situation not satisfy your ego.
- Question the trends of the society, what good they are to you and society. Find answer and follow it.
- Stand out, if need be, do not follow the crowd because others are following it. Walk alone, if need be.
- Stand up for principles you live for, even if whole world is against you. But be convinced that what you are following is the right thing to do.
When you stand up for yourself, there I tremendous power in it, by crossing all odds what you gain is real you and it is powerful.